Saturday, September 6, 2008

Do you need to take a part of me away to show you're strong?


It bugs me how much people are constantly telling me how to do my hair, makeup, and how to dress. It's ridiculous! I don't go around pointing out the things I don't like about their appearances. If you think I wear too much eyeliner or don't like my bangs in my face, good for you. You're not me. Stop trying to control what I look like; Stop trying to change me and make me feel bad that I don't look like everyone else. If you don't like what you see, don't look at me. It's that simple.

Why can't people just accept? We're so set on judging everyone else.

I am who I am live with it or without it...


Red said...

I am a mom, and a mom of a daughter who has curves. So thee only thing I expect from her is to be completely covered. Boys know where to look, trust me, they do not need any help.

Other than thay, she is good to go.

But I will tell you this, and these things I am about to divulge have been handed down for eons. These statements are not new, by any stretch of the means.

You will be judged on how your dress. You want to wear the heavy eyeliner...go for it, but you will be judged, so expect it and move on with it. You are breaking the mold, and that is all fine and dandy, but you step over the line too far for most peoples comfort zone, you will be stared at.

You will be judged by the company you keep. Unfair as it is, that is the way of the world. And if you choose to hang with the 'weird crowd' then be ready to be ridiculed.

And lastly but not least, is you will be judged on how you speak. Let me give you an average conversation between two teens. And I know I am correct, for I home school with teens and I hear them sepak.

"So, like what did you did this weekend?"
"Well, we like totally went to this place, like you know, like that place we went to last time.?
"Yeah, that was like a really cook place and I like want to go again if you want to go."
"I so totally want to go."

I know this is a conversation between two teens, but if you can't change your grammar for adults, then you will be judged as air-heads. I know these are harsh words, but I have been honest with you in all my comments, why would I change now?

By the way....great post!!!!

Skippy said...

I agree with you, you should dress/wear make-up the way you want to. I do. No matter how many times my friend tell me I need to wear eyeliner.

Anonymous said...

sing it sister! I loved that post, I really did. People are always telling me I wear too much black.

Lonely Heart said...

Thank you for the comments = ]

Red: Thank you for being honest: It's very much appreciated. Really.

But the thing is there are thngs in life that aren't going to be in everyone's comfort zone. Does that mean you have to judge others cause they make you uncomfortable? No. That doesn't give you any right. Yes, you're intitled to your own thoughts, but, please, keep them to yourself. You know?

I deal with being judged every day. I don't care about the people at achool thinking I'm off my rocker; the thing I do care about is when my sisters can't just let me be me. They don't want the way I look to ruin their reputations. So I have to change just so they can feel better? A little selfish don't you think?

As for the whole wearing too much black thing. I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN! I used to wear a lot of black, and still do from time to time. But whether you wear a lot of black or not shouldn't matter to your friends or family.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the comment. I'm glad I could make you see my favorite mythical creature in a new light.

just Ivy said...

so right. stay true to you.